August 26, 2011

Testi-orkut-monials!

I logged in to my orkut account few moments ago to check some friend's b'day (who apparently has only orkut account... which is almost defunct.... no facebook... twitter is almost alien to this friend of mine).

And out of nowhere... saw the testimonial icon... clicked on it... and read all the testimonials written for me... Nostalgic!!! those were the days... when friends use to ask each other to write down a testimonial so that their profile looks good (well... so that attention can be seeked :D)...

praises and praises and praises... with a lil bit wickedness... felt so good to read them all... also felt bit sad after reading testimonials of people i am in no touch now (forgotten friends/ broken friendships/ n all that)... but still... the testimonials were simply awesome... I remembering telling my friends to be true when writing a testimonial and not to copy or come up with some poem or decorative stuff... prefer being original ;)

I guess I will make it a point to copy them all (the ones for me and the ones by me)... sometime soon... and make a special file for them!

Cherished memories... :)

Slahu
P.s. Call it self-obsession! I call it walk down the memory lane :)

Love Got Served - Adulterated !

This is one of the first posts of a kind... where I am blogging about a stranger, and the conversation.
I have been recently bumping into a lot of strangers and having some one-off conversations... This piece refers to some guy i would call ABC.

Venue: High Court Bar Association Hall
What was I doing?: Not practising/ not in uniform/ some casual purpose/ was writing something.

Now! the scene: Picturize a lot of advocates... black/white combi colours all around... me in the corner writing some stuff...

Comes ABC...(late 30s, quite healthy, shabby looks, frustrated outlook) takes the seat adjacent to me. For about 5-7 minutes, no interaction... (comeon it's High Court... everyone's high with one's own stuff!)... then apparently there was another person who was sitting in front of me... XYZ ( a sardarji... perhaps in 60s...).. and he was his uncle... so, they kept talking something or other... i didn't care about what they were talking about (i was busy with my stuff!!!)...

Then, after sometime, they inquired about some advocate, as to whether i knew where he was, to which i responded affirmatively (i knew where that advocate was, coincidentally). and then started asking about me (Ok! woot! i look like an advocate... even if i m not in uniform ... alright... alright... coming back... i don't look like one by any means i guess!).. so gave a brief restricted intro about myself... and they gave theirs.. ABC is a managing director in a reputed company and lives in some place near to Delhi.

Then, i managed to ask him as to was he stuck up here because of some business issue? He hesitated, but seeing my *curiosity* and *frankness*... he gave in... he was here because he and his wife have filed the divorce by mutual consent. 


This was the first time I was one on one with a guy who was undergoing divorce (have seen every other types of *clients* :D). Now, the curiously-frank me couldn't resist asking the details of the case. A Divorce by mutual consent is the simplest because both the husband and wife agree together to end the marriage without going the bad way of accusing each other to obtain the divorce. So, likely, as i guessed, the issue should have been of maintenance and children custody.

And right i was! his wife has demanded 15 lakh rupees (1.5 million rupees) in addition to the assets she already has in her custody (which ABC says are over 15 lakhs themselves)... and she also wants the custody of children....

I wasn't surprised at this (pretty common in divorce cases). But i couldn't understand the *screwed-up* look on his face and his whole body language. We had a few this that legal talks and all... and then his uncle started talking about himself... (germany-returned, setlled sons... own business,,, multi-linguist.... n all that... pretty nice though..... a good outlook... was helping ABC as ABC is his son's friend... n uncle had all the knowledge of the courtplay... business wale hain... :D)...

Having won over them, and telling them that the case is not that panicky.. so take a chill pill... your advocate will handle it... hearing this the guy kinda broke down (i was stunned... ye kya hai!)... he then started his story...

His wife had committed adultery!!! wth! he said when he caught her red-handed for the first time, he forgave her in the hope she would never resort to such an act again. But she repeated and repeated! I was like, dude, do you have any proof she continued or are you just assuming... to which he replied... some channel also recorded the *sansani* incident once... (what the freak! wife on the loose...)... ok... hota hai... adultery is committing by women also... (many a cases are testimony to that)...

Now this guy after all the emotional havoc... was still going for divorce by mutual consent to save time and avoid any further embarassment (hmmm... quite practical)...

Then, he said that he is ready to give the money, but he wants his kids... 'he loves them a lot" (literally he had tears in his eyes)... i inquired about how old the kids were... to which he responded... 'son - 4 years old... daughter - 7 years old'..

My blunt reaction: too young kids... how could your wife think of adultery?

His reply... he loved her a lot... she has always been very beautiful... and then he came closer and told me that she has had affair with their servant and such many more ... no level.... the beauty became the beast in her!

At this very moment... his advocate came in... and this advocate surprisingly was someone who i had taken many a advice from during my student days... i got up and told ABC to bank upon him... he's the best person who could ensure him what is rightfully his... he took my number in front of the advocate (ok! did i steal his client... no.. i don't intend to be a divorce lawyer! not in my list... m not much of a game for breaking relations or worst playing with the life of the children)...

And then i got up and left... thinking what had just happened... for next quite some moments the conversation kept playing in my mind over and over again... and that money can't buy you happiness...

Love breakup zindagi... marriage divorce zindagi...

-
Slahu

P.s. This post has grammatical blunders... anysoways... wanted to be raw!

August 21, 2011

The Dost-zaroori-ship!

The airtel's latest ad 'har ek friend zaroori hota hai' is flooding facebook walls, tweets and even blogging world. And I am no expection. It has reminded me of so many friends who have been a part of my life at some stage. (i am already sounding old!)


Been blessed by many a good friends till now and have had some unique fun-filled dosts as well. This post is dedicated to the fond memories of two of my best buddies at school.

Back in my boarding days, i had this classmate X (name kept undisclosed) who was from Bihar. We had all the chores together, same section, same hostel, same room n all that. This guy was, on serious side a competitor as well, in academics back in the nerdy days. He had this unique persona which had liveliness and humour spilling over all bounds. He was a number! No seeker of limelight! Just plain chilled-out, all into living through the various chores.

He was a known face in some circles but not wide known across other sections or juniors, seniors, etc. He's been a big time partner in crime at school...

He had no qualms about cheating in exams and once responded to me, when i asked him wasnt he afraid, "my dad knows that atleast 5% i achieve by cheating. Why disappoint him?" Man! At that time cheating was the biggest sin and his coolness and calmness were such a mark of guts and galore for someone who was intelligent and sort of a nerd (an unmatched trait).


Another unique characteristic was his lingo. No! He spoke english and other languages in normal accent. He used to enact his Bhojpuri lingo into english or hindi, etc. and show off his funny side. Such a comic character was he, to think of him saying something seriously was a rare thing. And yup! What made him special was his dry humour; not laughing at his own humour... Unlike other look-at-me-i-am-funny kids at school... He was spontaneous, raw, talented in all aspects of life.

Though i was the golden kid at school (coz of being the geek plus all that discipline i never followed since school), i was always envious (in a positive way) of his talents and deep down wanted to do all things he could... But some people are gifted and that's the way they meant to be. Today! After so many years, i may have matched that somewhat... But he was the best i have ever seen. I still freak out before an exam. He never ever did. When i saw 3 idiots, Rancho reminded me of this knucklehead.

Havent met him in past 9 years, but have stayed in touch. For the records, he is now an owner of a call centre.

Coming to the next best friend... Z(name again kept undisclosed)... Well! This sardarji.. Rare combo of Sardarji+Jatt+Super intelligent+Sportsman+ProBhangraDancer+what not... Was again... Same section.. Same room.. Etc. And was my benchBuddy in the final year of school(this boarding school was upto just 10th)... So the bond was obviously supposed to there.. As a matter of fact X n me n him can be said to be three mutual best buddies! Everywhere in all chores, we were together... Z was excellent in studies.. Quie often before last year scored more than me ( yeah! D school competitor ego! It exists in all school geeks :P)... Ok! that was just to say that this guy was super good in everything. And yet did not have any ego or any rough attitude; down-to-earth guy.

Both X and Z had joined school in 8th, thus stayed for only 3 years. While i was a veteran who had been there from 5th. And these both guys had come at a time when my then best buddy had left the school as he had got through to RIMC, Dehradun (shall write a special post bout him someday! Coincidently my younger brother and his younger sister were also best buddies at school... Post on that some other time).

So this Z, was the tallest of the three (i was very short at school :/), most outspoken, bold, daring, bindaas, sort-of-i-dont-give-a-damn-you-are... And many more.. I have learnt to be gutsy from him...
He's the one who i have always shared my endeavours in life... Though he's much of a non-planner like me.. We have always by destiny talked at crucial moments of career and things have taken their course well. Met him two years back at delhi after nearly 7 years... He's tipped over 6 ft... (And i have managed nearly 5'9" after years of patience... :D) Didnt meet since then... But will be meeting him next month and hopefully even X and few other old friends. He's working with an MNC now. Both X and Z have done MBA.

And he's a big time bullet fan! Keeps travelling distances on it... Even went on it to Leh Ladakh... A full tine adventure lover! A real-life roadie:)

Miss my school days! Miss those days of friendship! Miss those days of selflessness!

-
Slahu

Tweet this! No haters... even if u plz :P

Alright! This post is about a weird day i have had on twitter. I, as is evident from my tweets and blog, am not a supporter of tactics used by Team Anna, but I support a corruption-free India. To be correct, as blogged earlier, both the government's bill and Team Anna bill are equally (if not more) full of errors and need better inputs.


(Image taken from Brian Martin's article "Energising Dissent", available here)


Now that crap be that. From, quite some days, I have received a lot of hate tweets for not supporting Anna Hazare's *valiant* effort. Well! i won't. He's a media-created, media-hungry kind of person (now hate this!, ppl!). Ok! due respect to his age and all the awards he has been bestowed till now (and which he doesn't seem to be giving away to the *corrupt* nation and government), he is a hero for many and no one can deny that now. But if he can dissent the government... he has the right to dissent... And I and many more like me, have the right to dissent him too... India is still a democracy!


Coming back to tweets... i had to block n mute many a followers and general twitter users today... It's sad most of them were senior citizens trying to lecture me on the issue. Well.. first thing, anti-corruption doesn't mean Anna Hazare and secondly, keep your thoughts for yourself, I ain't in need of further education from you and as one of my friends on twitter said "these people take retirement and don't have anything to do but lecture on twitter?" To add to this, I would say that there are n number of tweets as well which we tweet... care a thought about them too... Wait.. probably I should stop listening to Coldplay and start listening to Indian Classical music (what say! lecture!!!!!!!).

Anyways, had to share something about news channels.. Often then not i have felt that there is need for responsible media in the country which doesn't jump to conclusions.... but sorry to say! it's all the cut-throat competition that today news channel have become 24-hour reality shows! Had a one sort of bizarre incident on twitter today.


Now, most of you are aware that a third draft bill is under process by a member of National Advisory Council (NAC) member, Aruna Roy (for more info on her, visit here) and her associates, especially National Campaign for People's Right to Information (NCPRI), with which she is associated, have prepared a version of Lokpal Bill and would present it before the Parliamentary Standing Committee on Law and Justice and Personnel. So today she highlighted her draft plan in a press meet (reported by PTI , available on Times of India website, see here). I liked the draft plan (and not the draft bill... because they haven't released the draft bill to the public yet... and seek to perhaps take it straight to PSC on LJP). So, i tweeted the following in appreciation:

"Aruna Roy and Co's draft.. looks better than Lokpal and Janlokpal.... more than that their approach is much better #win #ArunaRoy #lokpal""

Deconstructing it a bit: draft here refers to draft plan, i.e., how she is going to approach the committee and put forward her version... and approach here refers to being humble towards government and team anna, and asserting the firm belief that the democratic institutions are not something to be done away with and emphasisng that any one who says their view should be the only view is wrong, be it the government or team anna. So this was the meaning of my tweet.

But then i got a blunt reply from Sagarika Ghose, the Deputy Editor of CNN-IBN:
@SagarikaGhost Sagarika Ghose
"@slahu They don't have a draft. Did you even know that? Where do you get your facts from?"

Ok! perfect! I know she thought I was referring to draft bill... not her fault...

But that brought me to one realisation... that how quickly she responded to general tweet without having a look at any of my earlier tweets... and decided to kind of halt me on stopping "rumour-mill". First i felt quite a bit annoyed at it... but then felt really nice to know that even though she's a top notch, she made sure i should not be misled on any news or source of news! And get my facts corrected! aye-aye ma'am!

Yes! I knew who she was when she sent this tweet to me. I have seen her on the idiot-box and have been an admirer of her serious-to-the-point approach on debates on her shows. N this account is a parody account or say a fake account using her name! and i was aware of that too... So chose not to reply... n let the so called "parody" stick up his nose where it belongs!... Her real account is @sagarikaghose. Worth following!

Some responsible media persons still exist and shall continue to exist... the only thing is what they show on the idiot box.. For some reasons... i have become a fan of Rajdeep Sardesai... not much of his news attributes (every news channel report looks the same... though his debates are kind of better)... but for his blunt and realistic tweets! (atleast for me)

Alright! ENOUGH OF BAK-BAK... and i resolve to quit blogging on this damn lokpal related issues... it's so damn boring... plus i dont intend to have a career in politics or c-evil society!

-
Slahu
P.s. To dissent is everyone's right. To dissent a dissent is also a right :)


August 18, 2011

Colours of nature!

A pictorial post... have shared it on fb... but seeing the way fb is these days... its better i put it up in this blog... to preserve it...


-
Slahu

Ideally Idle

X: Who is a capitalist?

Y: Well.. someone who discovered petroleum... and even someone who made cars....


X: How come?

Y: Coz' both of their products were useless without each others assistance. So to earn profit, they made sure cars run on petroleum... n none else...


X: So, then who is a socialist?

Y: The person who made efficient use of water and alcohol, and made sure everyone in the society could aspire to own a vehicle according to his social standing.


X: Who is liberal?

Y: Liberal is the person who made laws to ensure than capitalists and socialists enjoy their respective zones and pay him the necesaary tax.


X: Then, who is a democrat?

Y: The one who protested, took out rallies, kept claiming, and finally achieved all the credit for the work done by all of the above.


X: So, who is a realist?

Y: The ones who drive the car... knws there is some law in place... n there is reason for everything in the name of democracy...


X: And, finally who is an idealist?

Y: The one looking at this whole conversation and saying its all absurd... he cud have done better.


-
Slahu
P.s. Don't look for technicalities... I was real bored!

Feel-eye-ish-back!

Just a small post!

In the present democrazy scene happening in India, every politician - ruling / non-ruling/ in the making/ just baking/ (fill in the blanks) kissing/ simply missing - seems to defend their positions on current matters by going back and back... everytime... they are stung by a bee-like question. yes! the flashbacksssssss....



Anyhow... this flashback reminds me of the movie "Charlie and the Chocolate Factory" where Willy Wonka (Johnny Depp) keeps on having regular flashbacks one day while showing a group of children, each with a parent, his chocolate factory. And listening these tv-coverage-hungry people fight it out on news channels, and dragging each other too far into the past reminds me of one particular scene from the movie:


"Willy Wonka: I'm sorry, I was having a flashback.
Mr. Salt: I see.
Mr. Teavee: These flashbacks happen often?
Willy Wonka: Increasingly... today."

Every damn character out there is talking talking talking.... without any sense... those who have sense aren;t able to justify... those who are justifying have no sense... every self appointed civil society member thinks just coz a camera is staring into them (or vice versa), so they are the kings of the world! Speak sense and stop simply talking! lokpal - jan lokpal... ya kisi aur ko pal! lekin bakwaas band kar


And speaking of flashbacks... you need to know that various institutions of like have failed the test of times... e.g. accountability commissions in various states are a big failure... no further comments! too much of it around has already caused a headache to every normal <actual civil> society member.

On a lighter note to end this random post... i just had a flashback this evening... seeing KBC season 5... Amitabh Bachhan is one person who has not at all lost the charm... seeing him host this season reminds me of the first season... there is no less excitement in public as it was before to watch him... the energy.. the talent... the persona... seriously... "Buddha Hoga Tera Baap"!

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Slahu

August 15, 2011

Yes to Corruption-Free India and No to Ann-shun Hazare!!!!!


Recently some of my friends noticed that I dislike Anna Hazare; and as is quite expected - everyone’s reaction was: “what!!!”, “how come?”, “why”, “this is strange”, “he is fighting to end corruption”, “I should support him” n all that.

First things first, I support a Corruption-Free India; I support the need for instititution of Ombudsman (LokPal at centre and Lok Ayuktas at state level); and I do press for stronger anti-corruption laws.

What I am opposed to is the uncanny play by Anna Hazare and his associates. Back in April, I was really one of the “Anna Supporters”, because out of the blue, a modestly known Gandhian had the mettle to rattle the government’s attention and public responsiveness in a colossal manner. Finally, people had found some non-political image to be placed as an icon in what I would call the “social activism”.

But as time progressed, I have seen this “icon” turn out to be nothing less than a huge disappointment. Straightaway coming to the reasons as to why I don’t support Team Hazare:

(i) Maine Gandhi Ko Nahi Maara!:

A proclaimed Gandhian as Anna calls himself… always reminds me of the movies “Maine Gandhi Ko Nahi Maara” and “Lage Raho… Munnabhai”. I just ponder over the fact that how many have a people have used Gandhi’s name without even knowing or having read Gandhian philosophy. For sure, I can bet Anna has not read the Gandhian Ideology of State and Politics.

Oh! Sorry… he follows the principle of non-violence… He is a Gandhian… no arguments!

(ii) Representatives of Civil Society – A Misnomer:

The first blot on this Team Hazare undoubtedly is their rant as being representatives of the Civil Society. The real representatives of a civil society are the ones elected to legislatures – be it Parliament or State Legislatures – who have undergone elections – and represent the “mandate of people”. Team Hazare is more of a pressure group which needs to know it is a pressure group and not a super-parliament!

(iii) Consistent Insults to Parliamentary System:

Burning a bill outside parliament! Not having faith in parliamentary procedure of making a law (the parliament that makes laws on even security and defence purposes) ; consistently calling parliament a sham (that’s amounts indirectly to calling Indian Constitution a sham);
I needn’t say more on this! (It’s just that they could have a better approach than insulting the very structure laid down by the Constitution).

(iv) Cruel Intentions!:

Often a times in present times, an “icon” of a social movement who has been instrumental in gaining public support (on other note: most of anna’s supporters don’t know what a lokpal is, they just want an end to corruption), have been found to have political nexus (yeah! They deny it) and monetary gains (money is honey!). Anna reminds me of Leela Karan Sharma. Those of you who don’t know who L.K. Sharma is, a reminder – L.K. Sharma spearheaded the agitation regarding Amarnath Yatra land issue in the summer of 2008 in Jammu region of J&K. For 3 months, the southern part of the state was at a complete standstill for a cause. He kept saying he or his team were not affiliated to any political outfil. Come 2009, he fought election for Lok Sabha on BJP ticket. (He did loose though! People get smarter when they know they were cheated in some context).

I see a lot of similarities between him and Anna. Only time will tell!

(v) Anna's speeches – disastrous:

The main reason for my dislike of Anna are his speeches. Kindly! Kindly! Have an assistant and if you have- fire him, and get a professional. Only if Anna could give better and well-thought speeches, the government and others would have had no reason to counter him. Insulting the Parliament, P.M. and ministers – OK! Fine… you are protesting – but give a classic speech too. All I remember him saying is “Azaadi ki doosri ladai”… “ bigger threat than anything else” (I thought terrorism was biggest threat)… “Ann shan” (ok! I like this word now… hunger strike sounds too formal)…

He’s still got some time… give a remarkable speech!!!!! (or the speech experts in the government will play football with you).

(vi) Anna – can he give away his awards and honours:

Now, this is very amusing to me. Anna Hazare has been bestowed with Padam Bhushan in 1992 and Padam Shri in 1990 alongside an n number of awards and honours by the Government of India. And as is quite evident, he has been calling government corrupt at all levels. His team member, Kiran Bedi, is known for calling national awards rigged and unfair. Now, the question is why isn’t Anna threatening to give away his awards and honours which have been bestowed by the overtly “corrupt” government of India. Care a thought! (He might end up getting my support and many more if he does so. Needs character and guts! Call it a fight for cause! Rabindra Nath Tagore gave away his knighthood… Don’t worry Anna aint got that persona)

(vii) Maine Gandhi Ko Nahi Maara! :

A proclaimed Gandhian as Anna calls himself… always reminds me of the movies “Maine Gandhi Ko Nahi Maara” and “Lage Raho… Munnabhai”. I just ponder over the fact that how many a people have used Gandhi’s name without even knowing or having read Gandhian philosophy. For sure, I can bet Anna has not read the Gandhian Philosophy of State and Politics.

Oh! Sorry… he follows the principle of non-violence… He is a Gandhian… no arguments!

(viii) Legal Viewpoint on Lokpal Bills:

The Lokpal bill of the government is error-prone. Yes! No doubts on that. But it has not been passed yet. Every bill of the government, a legal researcher would agree on this point, has a lot of flaws and often a times get passed by the Parliament. How to cure the errors and flaws in the Acts – well! I hope everyone’s aware of process of amendment (even Constitution can be and has been amended). And as far as a bill is concerned, it has to go through a lot of stages which involve lots of changes and the utmost – approval of the Parliament (representatives of people).

And the much hyped Team Hazare’s lokpal bill – another bill full of errors. An interesting feature which amuses me is the minimum punishment for corruption – 7 years – equivalent to that of a person who has committed rape. Yes! You can imagine a person who has been wrongfully framed for corruption can easily be serving his sentence like a rapist (for the records, it is very tough to prove rape and involves a lot of procedure). I advocate for stronger punishments for corruption cases, but a sense of reasonability is what lacks in most of the provisions of Team hazare’s Bill… They definitely needed a better legal researcher instead of those lawyers they have in team (isn’t overcharging a client also a corrupt practice… Care a thought for team anna lawyers!).

(ix) What next for Anna if he succeeds?

A campaign for Bharat Ratna (the only award missing from his list);

An MP election ticket (from BJP likely);

Or may be advisor to Lokpal (or may be no age limit for Lokpal… n he himself becomes the Lokpal);

A Rajya Sabha MP (nominated by BJP or any opposition party… or wait Team Hazare might want to get him nominated by President);

Supervisor of Lokpal and Lok Ayuktas (possible! Anything is possible for Anna).



Ok! That’s it… I guess that should be enough! He’s old… oh sorry! he called P.M. old (P.M. is 79 and Anna is 74 - for the records).

What is my summary/suggestion/conclusion:

Well… I would better see fighting against corruption using Gandhi’s name and image instead of pseudo-gandhians or so for the matter. History has been rewritten people who were good with their words and actions. Anna and his team are no match. They are just a bunch of attention-seeking wannabes (an appearance by Anna in a children based reality show, Lil Champs on Zee TV recently… Is he seeking TRPs now… hasn’t he already got enough?.. ). I am no supporter of congress, bjp or any other party. I support people who have the character and a persona to be respected, much like Atal Behari Vajpayee (who withstood the toughest times this country has seen in recent times – kargil war, attack on parliament) or the likes (just imagine him speaking against corruption right now… half of the country will forget Anna). Such kind of personality is needed to spearhead movements of “social activism”. And a concluding thought, keeping in mind that almost everyone is corrupt today in one sense or the other (even blackmailing is a form of Corruption… what say Team Hazare)…

“Honesty is the best policy, corruption simply compliments it”.

August 10, 2011

Mind - Be Kind!





Dear mind,

Kindly re-new, re-focus, re-engage.

Regards,

Slahu

C-h-o-o-s-e !

"I consider that a man's brain originally is like a little empty attic, and you have to stock it with such furniture as you choose."
                                                                  - Arthur Conan Doyle
This post is about things we choose.
Here is a monologue about having to choose too many things in our lives. It's from a movie called "Trainspotting" directed by Danny Boyle (Slumdog Millionnaire / 127 Hours).

"Choose Life.

Choose a job. Choose a career. Choose a family.

Choose a f***ing big television.

Choose washing machines, cars, compact disc players and electrical tin openers.

Choose good health, low cholesterol, and dental insurance.

Choose fixed interest mortgage repayments.

Choose a starter home.

Choose your friends.

Choose leisurewear and matching luggage.

Choose a three-piece suit on hire purchase in a range of f***ing fabrics.

Choose DIY and wondering who the f*** you are on Sunday morning.

Choose sitting on that couch watching mind-numbing, spirit-crushing game shows, stuffing f***ing junk food into your mouth.

Choose rotting away at the end of it all, pissing your last in a miserable home, nothing more than an embarrassment to the selfish, f***ed up brats you spawned to replace yourselves.

Choose your future.

Choose life.

But why would I want to do a thing like that? I chose not to choose life. I chose somethin' else. And the reasons? There are no reasons. Who needs reasons when you've got heroin?”

Even though this is one of my favourite filmi monologues, yet I endorse to choose. Ewen McGregor, the actor who spoke these lines, chooses the films he wants to do, and does all the things he doesn't choose in the monologue. (Films do corrupt your mind... and the only ones who are not at all affected are the ones who corrupt).
Yes! To choose gives satisfaction of having had options and not having had something forced upon you or having had to accept something which never was an open-ended or close-ended option. And so is the meaning of the word "choose" - decide on a course of action, typically after rejecting alternatives.

I choose life. I choose to love. I choose to be humane. And I choose to be what my soul desires!!!!! (BIG STATEMENTS.... YES! I even choose to make 'em sometimes!)
-
Slahu
P.s. This post doesn’t endorse use of drugs. Take ‘em at your own risk!!!!!

August 04, 2011

No Arghh-eww-ments! You Got Owned!

"Ladai jhagde se pyar badhta hai" ( Translation for my english-smitten-indianlanguages-longforgotten friends: "fights and tussles increase the love"). Yup! The classic, antique, ever-trending saying - often said by people in times of truce (justifying that they are still in love and even were when they fought) is in lines with the relation between professional fighters (no hard feelings - it is just a fight).

This age-old i-was-disgusted-now-i-am-back-in-love thing is a piece of amusement (no i am not advocating against it... I am quite neutral... Well may be). The point of amusement is the kiss-and-makeup feelings which people (well! Just like science, exceptions are always there) often potray to simply hide their inner insecurities (who wants to see one's partner leave him/her after a fight) and to keep their ego intact (EGO factor - the classic killer of relationships, friendships and even causing professional factors - will blog bout it some other time... Can write a thesis on it.. Yeah m not void of it ofcourse! M human :P).

People are too used to each other - so much that this inter-personal bond ( i like this term... Sounds better than over-hyped love/soulmates/affair n other equivalents) has led to one partner have undue advantage over the other.

( whatever is blogged after this point in this post has strong resemblance to some friends and acquaintaces... As if i care)

Been seeing a lot of people in IPBs where the guys are just dominating their girls in the name of ever-famous "love"...

Interesting replies when i asked them at a certain point of time:

(a) "the girl is supposed to be under CONTROL"

(b) "i am a MAN.. She is a girl"

(c) "i pay for her expenses.. Pick her up from college and drive her back home.. She owes me that much RESPECT"

(d) "if i dont dominate her, she could cheat me easily"

(e) "how can she talk to the other guys, I SHOULD BE HER ONLY GUY"

(f) "i would make her pay heavily if she doesnt listen to me"

(g) "it took me so much time to make her love me, how can i let her be free."

N one thing that's more striking is that the girl can't question his way of life - n if she does, he gets back at her - changes the topic - and makes her answer some insignificant question (e.g., why did u add XYZ in facebook, or why did you put that picture on facebook, etc.) - n then when he knows he's got the upper hand - NO ARGUMENTS!!!!!

(now i know it may be sounding just like an another idealist pro-feminist post.. But nopes i aint making any strong statement... There are plenty of ngos n all taking care of that)

Such guys are to be blamed. Yes! Definitely. And such girls need to get a life. Yes! I aint going easy on them either.

Most of these dominated girls (includes depressed and even girls who commit suicide coz the guy left n all) love or are accustomed to being dominated (and that too in the era of equality). The guy is free to have the cherries in the park and the girl lives in the lovey-dovey artificial zone (that the guy loves her and she loves him).

I remember last year talking to a friend (girl) who i met at my former college after an year or so. We just greeted n all and were talking about hows and wheres. And there far across the road was her boyfriend who was constantly ringing her phone and honking her phone and she left in a jiffy not even finishing the talk. And later that evening she messaged me that she and her guy were having some fight and apologised for leavon abruptly. ( i was pretty much like OK! SHE GOT OWNED... She used to be a lively and free soul!)

No more emphasisng or highlighting what happens; everyone of us i aware of it and most of you or your friends are or have undergone this.

The only point i want to make is ( i know i made too many :D) happiness is shared n not owned... Equality is the key. (give respect/ get respect kinda thing). Speak up whats om your mind, let out those controlled emotions, make interpersonal bond a everything-for-each-other bond and not I-rule-you-get-ruled bond...

N one final advice to my friends and other people reading this post... SELF-RESPECT is a much better attribute than imminent SELF-PITY.

-
Slahu
P.S. I had never thought of writing any strong serious kinda stuff in this blog... But i guess been witnessing lot of crap around... So just thought of jotting it down

August 01, 2011

Rendezvous with "What Next"

Offlately... i decided to cut away some of my connections and just have a time off with myself... yup the college life is over.. <for the second tym though... too much studying is a dangerous thing>... and since i gotta take a call on "what next" and "where to start working"... break to banta hai!!!

but in this oblivion phase i realised that i have been getting a lotta "real you" kinda tags most often... i mean doesnt one deserve a time with one's own self to have a calm n composed mind...

so what's happening is since i haven't called much people in about 4-5 weeks... or more i guess... i have received a lotta criticism for being "lost"... "secretive"... "unfriendly".. and even "mean" hyper-compliments (as i would like to them)... to add to that people are anxious about my future plans (apparently more than i am) and the only reason they call or msg or fb me nowadays is to know what i have chosen...

well honestly... i would appreciate a "congratulations" first... and then the question "what next"... any so ways... somethings never change...

Now enough of cribbing! (it's no fun).. On a positive side... it's been a real amazing self-mental-faculty-rejuvenating time. Yes! i have never been a planner and probably shall never be one... there is only one thing as far as choosing things is concerned for me - Never Plan... planning always tends to hurt one way or the other...

As far as being oblivious for past some time, i don't need to apologize to anyone... my good friends have been there no matter if we haven't talked for long... i seek such people in my life... the "congrats" types... not the "what next" types...
N recently i am happy to be newly friends with some ppl who r happy to have me around and r not poking  my plans n all...
What's next shall come next... what's now is what matters and thats what drives the mind to get to that over-hyped "what next" be it in personal life or professional life...

-
Slahu
p.s. a lil bit cribbing now and then is not a bad thing... helps in getting out the negative energy... (a myth demystified )

July 31, 2011

When existence of a friend is forgotten!!!

Disclaimer: This is no theory... this is no fiction... n this is no <what's d point>... this is plain simple statement.... ppl we forget n ppl who forget us... it may bear resemblance to only living persons... <for sure it does>... n its definitely not coincidental!

A friend... best friend... bffs.... gud friend... n wat all we call our friendsA childhood firend or a school friend is a friend for life... d obvious statement we all flaunt... <mostly to acknowledge d fact tht we dint make many gud friends later or had bad experiences (one and the same though)>.... however how many friends do we remember tht existed...

Most of us have had some best of friends if not 'the best' at different stages of our life - be it at school, college, job, etc. - but d bottom line remains - we all have had such 'close' friends at some stage with whom we shared all d tym...every talk... every plan... hang outs n what not... and at this present moment u dont even know whats he or she upto...

Yes! they may be listed as ur 'friends' on facebook n twitter or even in ur phonebook... but d story remians same... u r no more in actual contact....
I must admit i have kinda forgot some really gud ppl i used to be engulfed with at some tym... n on the other note.... some ppl have also forgot that i exist...

I knw its none to blame but bond itself which gets weakened by tym... <d best excuse>... everyone's busy wid work, family, career... n on n on...

Even a genuine hi on fb or twitter or an sms seem like climbing a mountain.... n if one does finally do it... bham... NO REPLY... or... M BUSY RYT NOW... or <just wants u to drop d cal>... or <ignore in n number of ways>..,

Just a small question to d one reading this random post... Have u forgotten some really gud friend??? How wud u feel if your current best friend forgets you???

-
Slahu


Verve v/s Nerve

Blogging after 5 long years... lot has changed. I have changed. The people around me have changed. The Social Networking has changed. But, for the records, Obama won because of the "change".  (hope he doesnt go out for a "change" - #likely). <the twitter effect doesnt seem to leave me.. anyhow... how does it matter... its my own journal... no rules>

Ok! that was some utter non-sense. Just wanted to start off on something weird. Mission accomplished. I still can get a bit weird (n that should not change... don't wanna stagnate! a big nooooooo!!!!!)

So coming onto the title of this blog. I just wanted to churn out all the thoughts, all the mood swings, all the conflicts between dreams, desires, wishes, n all those synonyms and the nerve to get them.

serious stuff aside... this "changed" era has led to being expressive.. n some real good friends wanted me to start blogging... well so be it... time for a change... n tym to unravel the verve by mastering the nerve... (wow.. that's a quote... n yes not copied!!!!!)...

Now off to blog-shlog